There's been so many heroes and celebrities dying in 2016. More than any other year that I can remember, by April. In each area, an important figure in our life has gone. This could be from comedy, the last of the two Ronnie's or Victoria Wood; music, David Bowie or Prince; movies, Alan Rickman the list goes on...
They've have been role models and idols. They were party to some of the most significant people in our life. Their words speaking only to us. Their songs singing the shadows from our souls. Companions through our tears and joys.
The grief we feel is real. Even though we may not have known them personally, it was personal. Accepting this releases our denial. The feelings that I had when Chris Moyles left radio 1 were of loss. What would I do now?
Feeling angry is also a natural response. The grim reaper has gone too far now! Enough already and FFS express some of this emotion. Anger itself isn't a bad emotion, if is relevant to making the changes from it. Dr Elizabeth Kübler-Ross stated that if we feel anger for longer than 15 second then it's connected to unfinished business and can fester.
Bargaining is another stage and strategy of coping. Have you seen the take politicians, pedophiles, Bieber or Kane instead? Trying to take some control, to gain a sense of perspective.
Be sad. Let your tears flow. Appreciate the joy they brought to your life.
Even give yourself time to play out the fantasy relationship you had with them. And feel the gratitude for your memories.
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