Are we defined by others or by ourselves or both; by our roles and responsibilities; by our actions and reactions; by our feelings and emotions; by our hopes and fears; by society and culture; by our age?
The most powerful hypnotic suggestion in the world consists of three words. It is not just hypnotherapists that use this suggestion. They are often called upon to provide the antidote, after the suggestion has been accepted and has spread throughout the clients psyche and world. Three little words that are often delivered without a lot of thought...a throw away comment...an exasperated, tired or cross response. Its lands...it settles...it grows...it spreads...entering into our belief system...creating a belief system...it becomes part of us...we become it...then it becomes our reality...it takes over our map...and projects onto our territory.
First we hear it from others, then we own it, then it owns us.
Those words...You are _________ (fill in the gap).
In a study it was discovered that a child's mind closed for learning after hearing "you're so clever", because for them then the loop was closed, the target reached.
As we accept them, integrate the labels, they can either free us or chain us.
As we wonder about who we think we are, we can ask ourselves if that still fits.