Understanding who we are is a process. Who we are is transient, developmental and sometimes circumstantial. We each have many faces; our public selves, our private selves, our vulnerable selves, our invincible selves. Some we use to hide behind, some we use more than others. If it is a role, or part that we dislike it can be denied and shunted into our shadow. This can lead us to become separated from parts of ourselves. It can also lead to those parts becoming dissociated from the control centre; responsible for learning, development and growing. The part gets fragmented and in that process is becomes frozen, it stays at the age and stage when the links were severed.
Identifying the parts or elements of ourselves that we've been less receptive or accepting of is one of the first steps. Recognising the resource within the part is next empowering step.
Integrating all that we are is a journey.